http://cnn.com/video/?/video/crime/2011/03/29/hln.support.gang.rape.sus.hln
http://cnn.com/video/?/video/crime/2011/02/16/nr.adopted.kids.body.bag.cnn
http://cnn.com/video/?/video/crime/2011/03/28/hln.kyron.search.cnn
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Paraphillia
In my Abnormal Psychology class, we were warned in the beginning that there would be required reading that was quite graphic. I knew it would be sexual and I knew I as dreading it. I just got to that point in my semester where this reading was necessary.
The subject was sexual deviations, paraphillias, fetishisms, etc. The chapters always begin with a case study of a patient and follow up through out the chapter. This particular case study was about a 45 year old man who was a pedophile and child rapist. He has raped a 10 year old boy and been convicted. The psychiatrist also had a hard time hearing the details of his case. Child rapists are deemed more violent and take out complete hostility on the child victim. This is compared to child molesters and people who would only use child images to pleasure themselves.
What I learned about paraphillias is not only that they are abnormal but extremely irresistible to the perpetrator. If a man if turned on by a woman and asks her to wear high heel shoes to bed, this is normal. It would become abnormal when he can only be turned on if she wears the shoes while they have sex. And every time they have sex. If he passes a woman on the street wearing high heel shoes, he becomes extremely uncomfortable. He may have an erection and become noticeably agitated. This would be a type of paraphilia and it would interrupt his normal life, to the point it would effect his relationships with others and even his professional life.
This is the problem with pedophiles, infantophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, etc. This is not a simple preference or attraction. This is the inability to fight the urge and this is why these people actually engage in this horrific and dangerous activity. The best way to prevent this is to avoid being in situations which make it hard for them to control themselves. This is the opposite of what is likely. These men generally put themselves in to situations like this. They may volunteer where children presence is prevalent. They become boy scout leaders, youth church organizers, etc.
I say men, because it is very rare for a woman to have any paraphilia. There is also very little help that seems to be effective for these individuals. These are the least likely people to seek help for their problems. Most psychiatrists see these people as court mandated sessions. Successful treatments include therapy, hormonal therapy, electroshock therapy, castration etc. Reducing the androgens produced along with testosterone is the best way to decrease the sex drive altogether. Trigger replacement is practiced, where these men are conditioned to change what triggers their sexual excitement by replacing the images of children with images of women or men of the appropriate age. It is either hit or miss, I think depleting the population of these men is the only way to ensure the safety of our children. YES, that means, I believe death penalty for first offense sexual offenders of al children under the age of 14. It is worth it to me, for my children and yours.
The subject was sexual deviations, paraphillias, fetishisms, etc. The chapters always begin with a case study of a patient and follow up through out the chapter. This particular case study was about a 45 year old man who was a pedophile and child rapist. He has raped a 10 year old boy and been convicted. The psychiatrist also had a hard time hearing the details of his case. Child rapists are deemed more violent and take out complete hostility on the child victim. This is compared to child molesters and people who would only use child images to pleasure themselves.
What I learned about paraphillias is not only that they are abnormal but extremely irresistible to the perpetrator. If a man if turned on by a woman and asks her to wear high heel shoes to bed, this is normal. It would become abnormal when he can only be turned on if she wears the shoes while they have sex. And every time they have sex. If he passes a woman on the street wearing high heel shoes, he becomes extremely uncomfortable. He may have an erection and become noticeably agitated. This would be a type of paraphilia and it would interrupt his normal life, to the point it would effect his relationships with others and even his professional life.
This is the problem with pedophiles, infantophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, etc. This is not a simple preference or attraction. This is the inability to fight the urge and this is why these people actually engage in this horrific and dangerous activity. The best way to prevent this is to avoid being in situations which make it hard for them to control themselves. This is the opposite of what is likely. These men generally put themselves in to situations like this. They may volunteer where children presence is prevalent. They become boy scout leaders, youth church organizers, etc.
I say men, because it is very rare for a woman to have any paraphilia. There is also very little help that seems to be effective for these individuals. These are the least likely people to seek help for their problems. Most psychiatrists see these people as court mandated sessions. Successful treatments include therapy, hormonal therapy, electroshock therapy, castration etc. Reducing the androgens produced along with testosterone is the best way to decrease the sex drive altogether. Trigger replacement is practiced, where these men are conditioned to change what triggers their sexual excitement by replacing the images of children with images of women or men of the appropriate age. It is either hit or miss, I think depleting the population of these men is the only way to ensure the safety of our children. YES, that means, I believe death penalty for first offense sexual offenders of al children under the age of 14. It is worth it to me, for my children and yours.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Schools getting involved
Most of us know by now how to search for sex offenders in our neighborhoods. Our school in the town we live in, sends our the list of offenders in the area and updates are sent our as needed. This is a very good idea just in case someone does not access to the information. Also, to me, it says: As a community, we have our eye on you. I really think this is the reason that there are VERY few in this area. There are a few more in the surrounding counties.I would like to see more companies put out the faces of missing children. There are so many children missing that it is hard to remember all of their faces. The tiny little pics of children at the top of my circular isn't memorable to most people. What happened to the milk carton photos?? There is plenty of room on my cereal box, billboards etc.
Another question, why do we microchip our dogs and not our children?? I know this seems a bit extreme but so is circumcision!!! Some people are afraid of the "big brother" aspect. That, then we would be trackable. Perhaps, there is an option to have it removed when you are of age. The chips would have to be on a GPS system, unlike the pet chips which are registered chips that must be scanned. It is 2011, I think our technology field could find a better way to locate missing children. Not only we would be able to track them but the sicko as well. It would have to be left up to the parent of course, I think the parent and the doctor would be the only people to know the location of the chip on the child's body. This would help so that the kidnapper could not try to physically remove the chip in order not to be found.
JUST A THOUGHT.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Family Watchdog Website Informative
Family Watchdog can be quite a resourceful website when looking up sex offenders, maps of the location of the offenders in your area. My husband headed a Watchdog group at my child's school. This was a great program set to get dads more involved in their child's school. Dads have get-togethers with their children at their school to share ideas. It also encourages the father to volunteer on occasion at their child's school to be a handyman, check parameters of the school, walk around and talk to students during lunch, volunteering in a classroom etc. The D-O-G in Watchdog stands for dads of great students. It is a very positive organization which seeks to help in the protection of children. It recognizes that many children do not have a male role model in their life. Family Watchdog helps to provide that. For more information please visit their website listed below and contact your school to see if there is an active Watchdog group with in the school.
http://www.familywatchdog.us/default.asp
http://www.familywatchdog.us/default.asp
Alisa is found !
I could not have been happier this morning when I found out that Alisa had been found alive and well. Now, to find ALL the rest of these missing children. Alisa was found at a car wash and her hair had been cut off and the police officers thought that she was a boy who had wandered off. She was found 80 miles from her home but in Missouri. Thank you GOD!!!
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
What are your rules??
I hope you do take the time to talk to your children about their safety . Making sure to set clear rules of what to do when in public and simply giving them the best tools at having a fighting chance in any encounter with the wrong person and how to avoid these situations. The first important thing is to talk to your children about the reality of danger. We always want to protect our children and do not want to scare them with things we see on the evening news. Understandable......but is it protective? Without scaring your children, you need to inform them that there ARE people in this world that are not good and could hurt them. And that they look just like normal people. Children have an image in their mind of a "bad guy", when in reality they may look very friendly. You will be protecting your child more by giving them insight.
Growing up in a small town outside of Nashville, I often stayed with my grandmother. We would walk to a local store, and she would sometimes allow me to "wander off" to the next aisle or even department. Was this the best thing to do?? Probably not. But she did tell me, if anyone tried to take me to "scream my head off!!!"
Not bad advice. Ask yourself what tools you are using now, you may have some you could share. Could you use better ones?? Here are some tips that I would like to share----
a. Give your child a whistle, explain and make clear that they are to blow this whistle in the event that a stranger approaches and they feel uncomfortable and especially if anyone grabs them. Do not get too upset if the child uses it incorrectly because they may then become afraid to use it, just remind them of the proper use.
b. Make clear the limits of distance in stores, malls, parks etc. If I can't see you, you're too far or If I can not reach my arm out and touch you, then you are too far. If they get too far, let them know, and that it doesn't take long for an adult to snatch them up.
c. Role play, no really! Act it out, at home or anywhere. Set it up and give your child an idea of how to handle him or herself.
d. There are devices called child locators that act as personal GPS. Brickhouse.com is a good one!
Also, I am a big fan of cell phones for kids. I know its controversial, who should have a cell phone, how old should your child be and so forth. HOWEVER, if your child is ever alone at any time in their day, after school walking home, it may be the BEST tool your child can have. They can save their life as a piece of concrete evidence or for the records. It is worth it and more important to have it in an emergency. Better safe than sorry. Again, set clear limits for the phone.
e. Always make your child check in with you, if they are playing at a friend's house, outside, or if there is any sort of change in their day that is not typical. Have them come inside to check in or call. When children become missing, time is such an important matter, you need to know where they are in a time frame.
Please share ideas of tools you use to protect your children!!! Thanks
Growing up in a small town outside of Nashville, I often stayed with my grandmother. We would walk to a local store, and she would sometimes allow me to "wander off" to the next aisle or even department. Was this the best thing to do?? Probably not. But she did tell me, if anyone tried to take me to "scream my head off!!!"
Not bad advice. Ask yourself what tools you are using now, you may have some you could share. Could you use better ones?? Here are some tips that I would like to share----
a. Give your child a whistle, explain and make clear that they are to blow this whistle in the event that a stranger approaches and they feel uncomfortable and especially if anyone grabs them. Do not get too upset if the child uses it incorrectly because they may then become afraid to use it, just remind them of the proper use.
b. Make clear the limits of distance in stores, malls, parks etc. If I can't see you, you're too far or If I can not reach my arm out and touch you, then you are too far. If they get too far, let them know, and that it doesn't take long for an adult to snatch them up.
c. Role play, no really! Act it out, at home or anywhere. Set it up and give your child an idea of how to handle him or herself.
d. There are devices called child locators that act as personal GPS. Brickhouse.com is a good one!
Also, I am a big fan of cell phones for kids. I know its controversial, who should have a cell phone, how old should your child be and so forth. HOWEVER, if your child is ever alone at any time in their day, after school walking home, it may be the BEST tool your child can have. They can save their life as a piece of concrete evidence or for the records. It is worth it and more important to have it in an emergency. Better safe than sorry. Again, set clear limits for the phone.
e. Always make your child check in with you, if they are playing at a friend's house, outside, or if there is any sort of change in their day that is not typical. Have them come inside to check in or call. When children become missing, time is such an important matter, you need to know where they are in a time frame.
Please share ideas of tools you use to protect your children!!! Thanks
ACTIVE AMBER Alert: Alisa Maier – Louisiana,MO « AMBER Alert
ACTIVE AMBER Alert: Alisa Maier – Louisiana,MO « AMBER Alert
Facts about this case:
-Missing Since July 5th approximately 8pm
-Carnival was in town recently, bringing in out of towners
-House abducted from is 1/4 mile from Champ Clark Bridge which crosses state line into Illinois from Missouri.
-Active volunteer searches are ongoing and you can register at Elks Lodge at 120 N. Fifth Louisiana, MO.
Facts about this case:
-Missing Since July 5th approximately 8pm
-Carnival was in town recently, bringing in out of towners
-House abducted from is 1/4 mile from Champ Clark Bridge which crosses state line into Illinois from Missouri.
-Active volunteer searches are ongoing and you can register at Elks Lodge at 120 N. Fifth Louisiana, MO.
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